Edging Bliss: Embracing the Liminality of Pleasure

What Is Edging?

I want you to picture something for me, just for a moment. You are desperately trying to be still, even though your body is trembling. The slightest touch could end the torment now, but it's much better to savor the agony. You worked hard to get to this point, after all.

It's taking some effort to hold on, even though you laughed at the thought of failing earlier. Your surroundings and mind are sticky and trashed, but that doesn't matter. The fuzzy headspace currently taking over your brain is more important. It's all-consuming, and that's exactly what you've worked so hard for. You're tired of decisions and the daily bombardment of other people's problems. Right now, staying in your liminal space is the closest thing to real peace you've felt in weeks. Even your body is starting to join in, going tingly and numb.

Is embracing the ache worth it to get to the end, if there ever is one?

Edging means different things to different people and is used in various ways, but to simplify, edging is a form of orgasm control that aims to delay pleasure as long as possible to reach the absolute edge.

Why Edging Feels So Damn Good

• Intense Orgasms: The longer you wait and tease, the more you'll tremble and drool while climaxing.

• Heightened Sensitivity: Everything is amplified. Feathers become so much fun after a certain point. (My favorite toy while edging, subbies.)

• Increased Stamina: The more you practice, the longer you can play!

• Deepened Submission: If you have a partner or are submissive, edging and allowing your top to control your orgasms can be a very good bonding experience and build some lovely trust along the way.
  

How Does Edging Work?

There's no right or wrong way to go about it; what works for you is what's right. One of the best parts about this is being able to explore your interests and what can get you into the headspace you're craving. Having said that, here are a few things to keep in mind.

Build Up Pressure

Don't worry about getting anywhere fast; that's not the point. Stimulate yourself slowly at first, breathe it all in, and have fun discovering more about what you like.

Watch the Edge!

Feel that? Your toes are starting to curl, and it's building up to a point of no return. Stop when you feel like you're about to cum or... you're going to cum. So.

In Your Nose, Out Your Mouth

It's fine to take a break for as long as you need; there's no rush. Breathe.

Partner Up

Safe words are a great way to ensure communication keeps flowing. Edging can be overwhelming sometimes.

Use Your Words

Verbal teasing is a great way to keep them engaged, whether physically close or not. This is super important if you're edging long distances together.

Tie Them Up!

Blindfolds, restraints, cuffs, and tying up your partner are wonderful ways of ensuring they last as long as possible. It's also adorable to watch a good subby squirm.

You May Finish

Whether you’re exploring it solo or with a partner, edging invites you to slow down and become friends with the tension until it all fuzzes out. There doesn't have to be an end goal, or you could chase one. It could be to space out or to have everything feel sharper. Whichever feels right to you, I wish you long strokes and good times.